You are in pain, you need help, you are struggling with a bad relationship. Could it be with your father, your mother, your sister or brother, or even a child?
You don't know where to turn. The relationship gets worse over the years.
You have plenty of reason to hate this person, but, down deep you love that person.
If only……When he or she does………. He will change if……
I will get a therapist and work out my past.
Ok, you found a therapist, she specialises in Humanistic Psychology. I know this is going to help, I can dig up the past over and over again, and, I can be sure why I hate this person. I go over everything this person did to me. See, there is reason I need to remove this person out of my life. You become a victim to your past. You tell this therapist, “ I had a horrible time with this person, these are things this person did to me, see how bad he or she was to me. I need to dig up everything and get rid of it.” Of coarse, your humanistic psychologist is in agreement with you, this will take many sessions to perpetuate the fact that you were and continue to be a victim.
But then, one night, you read Colossians 2:8 “See to it that no one takes you captive through hallow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.”
In other words, do you listen to MAN or CHRIST?
Humanistic Psychology is a deception and distraction to God ’s promise. The past is gone.
When we walk with the Lord Jesus Christ, we know that the Lord is our healer of all our past deeds. A healer of all of our relationships. We do not distract our self by obsessing on the past. We know, as, Jesus, has forgiven us, we must forgive those who you think hurt you in your past.
Click your fingers, gone, healed, no need for a worldly therapist. We must forgive. Forgiveness is the formula for healing.
Avoid worldly therapists who suck you into their web, making you talk about the dark past actions of yourself and others, who take you and everyone around you down a deep well.
Look to the kingdom therapist, who will teaches you to forgive those who have trespassed against you. Look to those who teach love not hate.